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Tuesday, 19 January 2016

The word “lie”, is a false statement that can be told just to either prank someone or make someone not to understand something intentionally. Though everybody lies, but in this context, I’ll be explaining why most men lie to women in relationships. This is true because most men see it as a need to lie to women just because if the truth is being told, some certain targets can’t be met. It has become a part of every relationship that the man ‘must’ either lie to the woman to keep the relationship going or to risk ending the relationship if being told the truth. As to what I believe in, Men lie most in relationships more than the women.

Some of the reasons below entails the main views of why men intentionally lie to women in relationships.
Why Do Men Lie To Women In Relationships?
1. TO IMPRESS
The main reason men want to Impress women is the fear of rejection. As powerful and strong a man is, he still regards a woman he cares for and love. The woman has more power over him, she can make him weak or strong. Men fear the aftermath of women’s feeling, words, and reactions.
When a man proposes to a lady there is tendency that the man will lie to her. He lies to impress the lady of what he is actually not because of the fear of being rejected for who he is.  He thinks his status is not good enough to have her.  So he spice it up with lies to make his words sound sweeter and better to get what he wants. Some men thinks every woman want lies or believe that better.
2. FOR DEFENCE
Any man who cheats on his wife is likely to lie about what he did for his wife or the family not to react to it, therefore, he does this to defend himself. Some men pretend to be faithful, their words of lies shows they are faithful whereas they are not. They do this just to satisfy their wants. These words of defence is only to women they don’t want to loose or women who fits into their life plan. But if a man do not lie to cover up even when caught cheating it means the man does not see the lady as fitting into his life plan or tired of the relationship.
3. TO HONOUR WOMEN’S FEELING.
Most men don’t want to hurt women’s  feelings. They say all they can to make you feel relaxed and at ease even if 90% of all they said are lies. Perhaps, he has realised you do not agree or handle the truth he ones told you well. They will opt in to telling lies to please you. If you as a woman is the type who gets angry and dramatic when he tells you the truth,  you are training and encouraging him to lie.

4. TO AVOID FURTHER ARGUMENTS.

Most men with high thinking ability grasp that opportunity to maintain relief in their relationship by just agreeing to certain opinions instead of arguing. As a man, in some occasions when it looks as if the both are quarrelling and she just can’t stop arguing, he might not want to here more words from her so he tries to agree and lie about some certain key things just to avoid more arguments.

5. TO MAKE THEIR WIVES HAPPY AND PROUD OF THEM.
In a bid to make their partners happy and proud of them, they can just put up a little lie just to make their works hyped in the eyes of their partners and feel proud of them, whereas they’ve not gotten up to the extent of what they are about to achieve.
Virtually, many women has been lied to in one way or the other by men, but I’ve noticed that some men are not really given the opportunity to explain themselves out and sometimes due to the fear of the partner not been hurt. Actually, there is a treatment for men’s lie which is women. Women should make men feel comfortable to tell them the truth. The way women handle the situation after the truth matters alot. You have the power to make your man truthful to you.
You as a woman, try handle things in a calm way if you really want your man to tell you the truth.
Written by Hassan Bolanle
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Sunday, 10 January 2016

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Nollywood Actor Yul Edochie, The Son Of Of The Vetran Nollywood Actor Seems Confused In this Photo But don;t get it twisted because it was grabbed from a movie clip 
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Sunday, 20 December 2015

WHAT TO DO WHEN CHOOSING YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND
Sometime ago my elder sister shared some wisdom with me that I want to share with you now. She said someone she respects a lot advised her to look out for the things she didn’t like in a person when choosing a life partner. It’s easy to pick out all the things we like about our supposed hubby to be. We are in love and of course “love is blind” or just wearing dark shades (don’t know which one) but after some years or months into the marriage when love must have taken off those shades, we begin to see the things we don’t like in our significant other.



Things that we saw in the past but chose to ignore them subconsciously (that’s what love does). Thus her advice to me which is now my advice to you is, “don’t just look out for all the things you love about your partner, also look out for the things you hate as well and ask yourself can I live with this for the rest of my life?” consciously program your mind to pick out his deficiencies or even come out straight and ask him“what are your weaknesses” (everybody has one).



Everybody has a weakness and everybody has those things they can tolerate and the ones they can’t. Some women will not mind tolerating a man with anger issues and others will not mind a man with Ego it all depends on what you can tolerate and what you can’t. Personally, pride is a big NO for me. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that he will change after marriage, if he does praise God but for the sake of a happy married life ask yourself“peradventure this guy doesn’t change, can I live with this for the rest of my life?” “Can I still love him whole heartedly even with his __________ issues?”





Love is not just, loving all his good sides but loving the whole of him. It’s a full package; his charm, charisma as well as his Anger so if you must love him, love all of him. Happy Married life.

Source: Superwoman.com.ng
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It might interest you to know that even when you are both happy together, she still have emotional feelings for her ex. Some of these attitudes brought up by ladies can actually destroy the happiness in their current relationship unknowing to them should their current boyfriend/lover finds out.
Though, it’s important for you as a guy to know the moves of your girlfriend in order to maintain the affection and love in the relationship. As much as girls don’t like taking nonsense, the same thing goes with the guys also. Therefore, some of these girls who claim to have high knowledgeable ways of doing things, trick and prank their boyfriends showing love as if they care, meanwhile wants to be connected with their exes.

It pains so much when you have a girl that can’t do without her ex, it’s just as if they didn’t break-up, but rather they travelled. That’s why guys should always be careful and watchful before going out on a date with a girl who has had exes. These set of ladies don’t want to loose either of you, so she plays a ‘tricky’ game just to keep the both of you and choose who to settle with in future tomorrow after spotting out some differences between you both.

These tips below will guide/make you know your girlfriend is still in love with her ex, so as for you to know your stand in the relationship. 


#1. They are secretive when it comes to residual feelings of love for their exes. 

They always hide things that might interest you to know when telling you about her ex and how they’ve lived and what caused the break-up. She only tells you “one good and one bad” aspect of her former relationship, what he caused that made them to break-up (he always causes break-ups, she doesn’t *lies*). She behaves as if she doesn’t love him any longer but she does a little.

#2. She’s probably confused when she’s alone thinking about her life. 

This set of ladies can’t concentrate well when thinking about her life and relationship life. She still love that guy and also she loves the present guy, which to follow? This becomes a question she continuously stumble upon in her lonely periods and sometimes she might dare to speak with you (the present guy) about it. You’ll know what I mean if you read her mind and understand her, or maybe catch her one day when she’s having that thought and when you ask her, she’ll say nothing. Be aware that something’s wrong!

#3. She’s irritated at every of your mistakes and misbehaviour in thought of the guy. 

She always have this thought of yelling. She yells at anything you might have done wrongly after a long conversation with her ex on call and on chats. Afterwards, she goes back sitting quietly, waiting for you to go and plead for forgiveness before she’ll realise her actions and come back to her senses.

#4. She compares you to him here and there mostly anytime you have quarrels/misunderstanding. 

She takes you for granted by comparing your activities with that of her ex. She thinks her ex is better of with that task than you, she feels you don’t know how to tackle things compared to her ex. Childishness can make these set of girls to be comparing who’s more cute between the both of you even by tagging your pictures together just to spot the difference, who’s got more swags than who and who’s more educated. These set of ladies still need to improve in their relationship life because this is what causes “use and dump” phrase used for some ladies. No one wants to marry a girl who’s that shallow.

#5. She’s still in touch with him and they connect together. 

Some ladies are just too smart. They say they’ve broken-up with him but they still call him everyday, they still chat him on social networks every hour. You as the boyfriend will start wondering, and maybe one day you ask her why she’s continuously doing this, she’ll say they are just friends and nothing more. She’ll even be angry that you’re asking her that and that you’re jealous, not knowing that you’re protecting what’s yours.

#6. She likes talking about her ex and remembers the memories they’ve spent together that you’re yet to meet. 

She’s not always comfortable when a particular task that her ex did hasn’t been done by you. She feels her ex is more planned and organised than you. She might openly tell you in a playful way one day that “you’re not impressing her and that her ex normally do more than that”. This is one problem with some guys though in a relationship, but doesn’t mean girls should take that as an advantage. She talks about his ‘goods’ always, no cons.

#7. She still want to be friends with him even when you’ve advised her on so many occasions. 

She just can’t do without him, therefore, she tries to still be friends with him just to continually see his recent activities. Some childish acts of some of these ladies is to bookmark their picture upload page on any social network, to easily get their recent activity of how the guy is living large or how he’s enjoying his life. They easily get carried away to come back to him. It shows that she still has interest in him.

#8. She’s jealous seeing her ex with other girls. 

Sometimes she cries and get moody seeing her ex that she still have feelings for in different hangouts with other ladies. She gets jealous and can’t cope with it. Maybe she saw it on his social network platform, she’ll jealously secret-chat the guy just to know who those ladies are.

#9. She loves you both but she thinks of him more. 

There’s nothing in this life that can buy true love. She might like you, but when this thought of him keeps coming to her senses, she just can’t help it. She just love him so much that she always make references to their special songs they sang together, movies they watched together and other things they’ve done together.

#10. She keeps much of his pictures in her phone so as to remember him constantly. 

She’s not afraid of you seeing it, she dares you because she doesn’t love you compared to him. She even go to the extent of designing his pictures, adding them on collage with hers. She’s just fond of this.

#11. She’s not afraid of you quitting the relationship.

To some ladies in this act, infact, that’s what they’ve been waiting for to hear from you. They don’t just want to bring that idea anytime quarrels come up, they might be tempted sometimes though, but they want you to be the one saying the relationship should end so she won’t feel guilty of it when explaining to her friends. This will also give the opportunity to fully go back to the ex.
These are some of the noticeable ways to find out your girlfriend isn’t done yet with her ex. You can actually find out by tracking her daily activities. It’ll be better sitting her down and educating her about what she’s doing and things that might come up due to her actions.
Some girls can actually be harmful at the end in a relationship. There’s a point I believe you can tolerate her attitude. If she refuses to listen to your utterances and advice, I’d advice you to look for a way and move on with your life, but if she’s a good and sensitive girl that understands what made them part ways, she’ll listen up and turn ways.
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Monday, 30 November 2015

What is masturbation?
Masturbation is simply, an act whereby individuals use their hand or soft object to channel a process of message through their private parts to generate a sexual ecstasy, this is done in both sex.
What is sex?
Sex in this context is an act whereby two individuals usually a man and a woman, whether married or not, engage their reproductive organs in a union that usually promote ecstasy for both parties, with or without the intention of producing an offspring thereafter.

Writing about the former and the latter, I’ll be pragmatic enough here, on the other way round I’ll be soft.
Forgive my Cynicism if it frightens you, just as I wrote: “I’m only trying to be pragmatic”.
Firstly, it is God’s intention for man to have sex, because it is the process through which His majesty’s plan to keep man replenishing come to being. If there was any other, God would have told us from the genesis anyway. But it was never God’s intention that man masturbate. One similar qualities is that both act can be caused or channel by pornograhics whether active or passive. It was never part of God’s idea that man masturbate, why? His majesty, when He made both of them (Adam and Eve) never intended that the man Adam would had a ‘seperate sex’, He said “it is not good for man to be alone”, meaning, from this context “it is not good for Adam to be fingering himself or playing with his balls all day by himself”, although sex was not the only role the woman eve was supposed to play as designed by God, but on this topic I’ll maintain a straight resonance here – won’t divert. It was not God’s idea too that the latter Eve would practically impractically give herself a self-arousal and take her finger or an object to induce on herself some climax of sexual cool delectation and felicity, it wasn’t God’s idea. Even when He made animals; carnivorous, herbivorous, reptiles, insects, God did made provision for a means to sex if the need be, they all had their partner, Bible recorded “Male and female He did made them”.
These days, something frightens me well when I see animals and insects do their things, even a cockroach will not loose the pleasures of such full exorbitance and frilly moment to the detriment of imagining a self-induced sex on themselves whether male or female. Even the tse tse fly
I don’t know what you see and say, but It is a great magnitude and gob of disgrace for a man whether a believer or an atheist to practice such.
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Thursday, 26 November 2015

Today’s topic is gonna be an interesting one. Distinct physiognomies of humans as intellectuals have portrayed an interesting side that’s yet to be fully utilized on everyone’s part. Man is created naturally to spice life up with these potent assets granted by his creator. That’s why man is typically different from animals. That you have eyes, hands or nose does not make you a human being. After all, goats and dogs too have got these same physical features in them. What differentiates us from other species is the fact that we were constructed to use our lofty intellectual capacities in a way that is unheard of in the history of the world.

However, it appears man begins to lose this boundless power to achieve this as he becomes lackadaisical in his pursuit in life. It’s the reason why so many of us have many unanswered questions in our hearts but are unwilling to provide panacea for them. One of those questions will sure be answered today. And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. Incidentally, that’s the motto of the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) in the United States.
One of the most asked questions is the issue of when one should start dating. Over 204,589 answers have been provided on this simple but germane question. Today, I am going to take you into the excursion of a potential relationship. Now, there are two types of love according to mentor, Leke Alder; the SENTIMENTAL love and the DUTIFUL love. An understanding of this provides us an insight into answering this question. Here is my answer; you are ready to start dating the day you are able to match ROMANCE with WISDOM or MATURITY. That sounds too simple for such a question right? Just relax and keep reading. I’m gonna expatiate.
The first, Romance. Many people, especially from the religious angle enter relationship without having romance for their partners. Such a dangerous perception, you say! The problem with such people is that they struggle with moral challenges and wrong definition of the subject. It’s the reason why spiritually, they are on fire but emotionally, they are struggling with a repugnant control system called the withholding of affection. We were literally told to marry someone of the same faith as ours. Listen, you can’t be more spiritual than the Holy Spirit himself and you can’t be more catholic than the Pope. Being in a relationship you are not romantically attracted to is practically unhealthy! It can end you in a mental asylum!
What then is romance? Very good question. Romance is the softener of the harsh realities of the business called life. Romance is not something extraordinary. It is those little things and little moments we re-create even when we are not with our partners. Romance is what makes the systolic flush of the heart flutter. Romance is the deep appreciation of your courtesan in the unspoken language of love. Romance is you cleaning the lipstick error she made while doing her make-up rituals with your handkerchief. Romance is the ritual between a guy and a lady. Romance is the text message you send to her constantly affirming your continuous love for her. Romance is that little surprise gift you bought for her at Ikeja City Mall; that surprise chocolate, that surprise household item, that surprise wristwatch, that surprise video you made for her and of course, that surprise surprise!
Romance is the appreciation of her fashion intelligence even if it seems a colour blocking or an ‘Okrika’ clothes. Romance is the acquisition of vocabulary to describe the grandeur of her beauty. Romance is the regurgitation of the mental consumption with hagiographic imageries of your girlfriend. Romance is that small but deep love card you make for her on Valentine’s day. Romance is making her feel super special among her peers. Romance is the caring and giving, the intimate exchange of affection. Romance is you two holding hands together while walking. Romance is that affectionate hug she gives you for constantly reminding her she’s the best. Romance is her head being placed on your chest while She’s eating popcorn and watching Fast and Furious 7 or The boyfriend’s girlfriend at the Silverbird Gallery. Romance is both of you in your private island called love, shutting your minds to the busyness of life. Romance is the appreciation of her new physique, her new shoes, her new make-up skills. Romance is that ‘thank you’ she tells you after putting on her, your neck chain. Romance is absolutely more than what you think it is!
Let’s get down to the other equation, maturity. Africa’s conception of maturity is probably deficient. Maturity is not the amassing of beards under the chin, it’s not the claiming of superiority over the lady because of her mild stature. What also is maturity? Maturity is the always forgiving attitude even when she does something stupid. Maturity is the appreciation of her culinary skills even when the ‘maggi’ is too much in the food. Maturity is when she exhausts your perfume and you still appreciate the smell of the cologne on her dress. Maturity is the smile you put on, when she exhausts your call card to call her best friend without informing you. Maturity is you making her feel secure anytime she’s around you. Maturity is enduring all those unnecessary and emotional talks due to her garrulous and voluble attitudes. Maturity is trying to understand why she behaves in a childish way due to mood swings. Maturity is you calling her one more time despite missing 35 calls of yours.
Maturity is the understanding behaviour you display when his female friends are gathered around him. Maturity is the I’m sorry, the please, the thank you that truly comes from the bottom of your heart. Maturity is the hug you give her even when she deserves some little spanking. Maturity is comprehending why she came 7:15 pm for a 5 pm date with you. Maturity is that display of the gentleman in you. It’s the opening of the door for her, it’s helping her do a task when she’s tired. It’s the calm attitude you display when she does her make-up rituals for 1hour. Maturity is not taking undue advantage of her due to her nature. Maturity is understanding sex outside marriage is a bad idea despite the cravings of its desires. Maturity is the ability to keep his secrets and vulnerabilities. It’s the overlooking of each other’s wrong doings and letting nothing gets between you. Maturity is turning the TV channel while watching El-Classico to a Bollywood or Korean movie just to satify her. Maturity is putting each other first, putting your selfish desires out of the equation of dating.
If you can’t get to this point, you aren’t ready to start dating. Never forget, marriage is not a transformation agenda. It’s no substitute for a failed courtship. It’s better to assume the guy you’re dating is the one you’ll be married to. Put these things into your relationship and you gonna be happy for the rest of your life.
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Sunday, 15 November 2015

Maybe you love her so much and can’t do without her but sometimes you just don’t stay in line when trying to bring little romance to show you truly love and cherish her. Every female relationship partner needs to be treated with care, love and respect no matter what they’ve done to you (that’s if you still love her and wants to keep her). It’s the way you make her feel that matters, therefore, if you make her happy when you’re also happy in the relationship, it keeps it going in a good way and it feels good.

Unlike guys who gradually think problems and issues off their memory, ladies would want to elaborate more on it and this makes guys angry. But not withstanding, you still have to make her feel happy and loved because she’s your partner. You might not have much but you just have to do something little and below are some tips for you to make her feel loved.

1. Do the Things she likes

You’ve been in an affair with her for some time now, I believe you must have known some few things that she likes; work on them. Maybe you know she likes banana so much, and maybe you went to work, you can surprisingly buy it for her on your way coming back. It doesn’t mean anything but it shows you love her by giving her what she likes. She’ll receive it with happiness and your dinner will be well set that night *winks*.
A good girlfriend will always like what’s good and what you can afford, don’t go buying different things for her just to impress her. If you didn’t see it in particular, don’t buy another, for example, if she likes a particular white gown that she’d shown you before, and because you didn’t see it and it’s only the red colour that was there, you went buying the red, it’s a no no no. Instead simply surprise her with something else that she likes

2. Be Honest and Open to her

Don’t brag about something you don’t have or something you’ve not yet achieved, instead, tell her the truth about what you’re into. Caring and good girlfriends/wives are always understanding and you telling them the truth will bring more love and affection in the relationship. She’ll love you because you’re open to her.

3. Go out on a picnic together

In a quiet place occupying just the both of you, eating together, feeding each other, sharing ideas together and lying in her legs, looking at her eyes. The affection and love in her eyes will be so strong that she might shed tears of joy because she’ll be thinking of the things you’ve been doing for her. Ladies like this, they enjoy it.

4. Pet Her, Care for her and Assist her

Ladies love guys who can treat them right. If you truly want to make your lover feel loved, pet her. Maybe she’s tied up with some works that will take her time, you can help her by taking some tasks upon yourself. There’s nothing there, you’re not doing it everyday, it’s just for that time so there should not be any form of pride. Do this if you truly love her.

5. Take her on a trip together and to occasions. 

This is one of the sweetest ways you can actually make her feel loved. Taking her on a trip together to see what the world covers makes her to know different things she don’t know, and she’ll feel happy for expanding her knowledge about the world. Also take her to occasions where people are celebrating; wedding, music and comedy show, award nights and other outdoor events, so you people can feel warmed and enlightened together. Especially a comedy show, it feels sweet and lovely when you laugh at one particular thing together. She won’t feel the love instantly, she’ll feel the love when you’re back home, when she remembers the event and how she got there and the person that brought the idea.
Love is something every relationship should possess. Always show efforts to make your girlfriend/wife happy by using these tips, it works so well because I’ve been using it, they costs nothing.
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